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Your boss’s silence isn’t rejection…
Your worth isn’t hiding in your inbox 🖤

If you’ve ever spiraled because your boss or coworker didn’t respond right away… this is for you.
Anxious attachment can show up in the workplace too — making you read between the lines of every email or overwork to “prove” your value.
These affirmations are your permission slip to pause, breathe, and remember your worth.

#anxiousattachment #workanxiety #attachmentstyles #mentalhealthatwork #workboundaries #healingjourney #secureattachment #boundariesarehealthy #workplacewellness #selfworthjourney #careerwellness #emotionalhealth #healingattachment #anxiousavoidant #mentalhealthtips

Your boss’s silence isn’t rejection…
Your worth isn’t hiding in your inbox 🖤

If you’ve ever spiraled because your boss or coworker didn’t respond right away… this is for you.
Anxious attachment can show up in the workplace too — making you read between the lines of every email or overwork to “prove” your value.
These affirmations are your permission slip to pause, breathe, and remember your worth.

#anxiousattachment #workanxiety #attachmentstyles #mentalhealthatwork #workboundaries #healingjourney #secureattachment #boundariesarehealthy #workplacewellness #selfworthjourney #careerwellness #emotionalhealth #healingattachment #anxiousavoidant #mentalhealthtips

This morning’s plans? Cancelled by an hour-long snotty tantrum, the demand for “daddy to do it”, and changing into my second shirt before 10AM. 🙃 Instead of fighting it, I decided to write this post—because sometimes the only thing we can do is breathe, hold space, and remind ourselves it’s not our job to fix it all.

Coregulation looks like:
❤️ Resisting the urge to people-please or quiet the chaos.
💙 Sitting in the storm and being the calm.
💜 Showing up for your partner when they’re tapped out.

It’s messy. It’s loud. It’s real. But the truth is—it will pass. (Yes, like a kidney stone… but it’ll pass. 😅)

Parents—how has your teamwork changed since having kids? Drop it below ⬇️

#ParentingInTheTrenches #ParentLifeUnfiltered #Coregulation #GentleParenting #MindfulParenting #AttachmentParenting #ParentingTogether #ParentingSupport #RealParentingMoments #ParentingJourney #ParentingCommunity #ParentingWithLove #MessyParenting

This morning’s plans? Cancelled by an hour-long snotty tantrum, the demand for “daddy to do it”, and changing into my second shirt before 10AM. 🙃 Instead of fighting it, I decided to write this post—because sometimes the only thing we can do is breathe, hold space, and remind ourselves it’s not our job to fix it all.

Coregulation looks like:
❤️ Resisting the urge to people-please or quiet the chaos.
💙 Sitting in the storm and being the calm.
💜 Showing up for your partner when they’re tapped out.

It’s messy. It’s loud. It’s real. But the truth is—it will pass. (Yes, like a kidney stone… but it’ll pass. 😅)

Parents—how has your teamwork changed since having kids? Drop it below ⬇️

#ParentingInTheTrenches #ParentLifeUnfiltered #Coregulation #GentleParenting #MindfulParenting #AttachmentParenting #ParentingTogether #ParentingSupport #RealParentingMoments #ParentingJourney #ParentingCommunity #ParentingWithLove #MessyParenting

For the parents worried they’re ‘messing it up’…

Being an anxiously attached parent can feel like every choice you make will “ruin” your kid.
The truth? Your love, presence, and consistency matter more than constant perfection.
Save these for when the parenting guilt kicks in

#anxiousattachment #attachmentparenting #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #parentingwithlove #parentingtips #healingjourney #breakingcycles #intergenerationalhealing #secureattachment #parentingaffirmations #parentinganxiety #attachmentstyles #mentalhealthsupport #gentleparentingtips

For the parents worried they’re ‘messing it up’…

Being an anxiously attached parent can feel like every choice you make will “ruin” your kid.
The truth? Your love, presence, and consistency matter more than constant perfection.
Save these for when the parenting guilt kicks in

#anxiousattachment #attachmentparenting #gentleparenting #consciousparenting #parentingwithlove #parentingtips #healingjourney #breakingcycles #intergenerationalhealing #secureattachment #parentingaffirmations #parentinganxiety #attachmentstyles #mentalhealthsupport #gentleparentingtips

Attachment theory, but make it a theme park.
Which ride do you usually find yourself on?
Healing isn’t about finding a perfect ride… it’s about feeling safe enough to enjoy it.
Tell me in the comments—are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or a mix?

#AttachmentTheory #RelationshipHealing #MentalHealthEducation #BoundariesAreBeautiful #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapyContent #HealingJourney #AttachmentStyles

Attachment theory, but make it a theme park.
Which ride do you usually find yourself on?
Healing isn’t about finding a perfect ride… it’s about feeling safe enough to enjoy it.
Tell me in the comments—are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or a mix?

#AttachmentTheory #RelationshipHealing #MentalHealthEducation #BoundariesAreBeautiful #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapyContent #HealingJourney #AttachmentStyles

You made it through the week — and that deserves some serious celebration.
But if you’re still feeling drained even after a full night’s sleep…
It’s not laziness. It’s not just “being tired.”

You might be missing a different kind of rest.
There are 7 types of rest your body and brain actually need —
and nope, none of them require a nap (unless you want one 😴).

✨ Watch this reel to find the kind of rest that fits YOU.

Let me know in the comments:
👉 Which kind of rest are you giving yourself this weekend?

#RestIsProductive #MentalHealthReels #TherapistTips #7TypesOfRest #EndOfWeekCheckIn #TherapistOnInstagram #MillennialTherapist #BurnoutRecovery #SelfCareIsntSelfish #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PeoplePleasersUnite #YouDeserveRest #RestWithoutGuilt #EmotionalRest #TherapyReels #SelfCareTips

You made it through the week — and that deserves some serious celebration.
But if you’re still feeling drained even after a full night’s sleep…
It’s not laziness. It’s not just “being tired.”

You might be missing a different kind of rest.
There are 7 types of rest your body and brain actually need —
and nope, none of them require a nap (unless you want one 😴).

✨ Watch this reel to find the kind of rest that fits YOU.

Let me know in the comments:
👉 Which kind of rest are you giving yourself this weekend?

#RestIsProductive #MentalHealthReels #TherapistTips #7TypesOfRest #EndOfWeekCheckIn #TherapistOnInstagram #MillennialTherapist #BurnoutRecovery #SelfCareIsntSelfish #BoundariesAreBeautiful #PeoplePleasersUnite #YouDeserveRest #RestWithoutGuilt #EmotionalRest #TherapyReels #SelfCareTips

When your avoidantly attached partner shuts down, it’s not personal—but how you respond can make a difference. They’re not being cold; they’re protecting themselves the best way they know how. Lead with calm, not panic.

👂Drop a 🧊 in the comments if this helped you understand your avoidant person better.
💭 Tag someone who needs this reminder.

🔖 Save for when you’re tempted to take their silence personally.
#AttachmentStyles #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipHealing #EmotionalIntimacy #MentalHealthTips #TraumaInformed #SecureAttachment #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAnxiety #InnerChildHealing #BoundariesAreBeautiful #LoveAndAttachment #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapyTalk #AnxiousAttachment #HealingTogether #MillennialTherapist #GentleRelationships #MentalHealthReels

When your avoidantly attached partner shuts down, it’s not personal—but how you respond can make a difference. They’re not being cold; they’re protecting themselves the best way they know how. Lead with calm, not panic.

👂Drop a 🧊 in the comments if this helped you understand your avoidant person better.
💭 Tag someone who needs this reminder.

🔖 Save for when you’re tempted to take their silence personally.
#AttachmentStyles #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipHealing #EmotionalIntimacy #MentalHealthTips #TraumaInformed #SecureAttachment #CouplesTherapy #AttachmentTheory #RelationshipAnxiety #InnerChildHealing #BoundariesAreBeautiful #LoveAndAttachment #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapyTalk #AnxiousAttachment #HealingTogether #MillennialTherapist #GentleRelationships #MentalHealthReels

If you’re anxiously attached and loving someone with an avoidant style… whew, that nervous system is working overtime 😅

Avoidant people aren’t heartless — they’ve just learned to survive through distance and independence. It’s not about you being too much — it’s about them feeling too vulnerable.

The more we understand each other’s attachment styles, the easier it is to build real, secure connection.

Save this for the next time your brain says “they’re pulling away — it must be me.” It’s not.

#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipTips #MentalHealthEducation #HealingTogether #TherapyTalk #SecureAttachment #NervousSystemHealing #SelfGrowthJourney #MillennialTherapist

If you’re anxiously attached and loving someone with an avoidant style… whew, that nervous system is working overtime 😅

Avoidant people aren’t heartless — they’ve just learned to survive through distance and independence. It’s not about you being too much — it’s about them feeling too vulnerable.

The more we understand each other’s attachment styles, the easier it is to build real, secure connection.

Save this for the next time your brain says “they’re pulling away — it must be me.” It’s not.

#AttachmentStyles #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #RelationshipTips #MentalHealthEducation #HealingTogether #TherapyTalk #SecureAttachment #NervousSystemHealing #SelfGrowthJourney #MillennialTherapist

When your partner gives you a thoughtful gift and your avoidant attachment style says, “Time to disappear like I just got tagged in a group project.”

It’s not that they don’t care—it’s that too much closeness can feel really uncomfortable.
Avoidant folks often learned that independence = safety. But guess what? Healing means learning you don’t have to run every time things get emotionally real.

Let’s unpack this.

#avoidantattachment #relationshiphumor #attachmentstyles #emotionallyunavailable #mentalhealthmemes #healingattachment #traumarecovery #millennialtherapy #innerchildhealing #relationshipanxiety #groupprojectenergy #avoidantpartner #boundariesandconnection #therapymemes #selfawarenessjourney

When your partner gives you a thoughtful gift and your avoidant attachment style says, “Time to disappear like I just got tagged in a group project.”

It’s not that they don’t care—it’s that too much closeness can feel really uncomfortable.
Avoidant folks often learned that independence = safety. But guess what? Healing means learning you don’t have to run every time things get emotionally real.

Let’s unpack this.

#avoidantattachment #relationshiphumor #attachmentstyles #emotionallyunavailable #mentalhealthmemes #healingattachment #traumarecovery #millennialtherapy #innerchildhealing #relationshipanxiety #groupprojectenergy #avoidantpartner #boundariesandconnection #therapymemes #selfawarenessjourney

Not everyone feels patriotic today — and that’s okay.

For many, today brings grief, anger, or deep disconnection. If the red, white, and blue doesn’t feel like it represents you, you’re not wrong. You’re not “too sensitive” or “ungrateful.” You’re living with awareness.

You can love your people and community, and still be heartbroken or angry at the systems that have caused harm.

So whether you’re resting, grieving, reflecting, or just trying to get through the day — know this:
Your feelings are valid. Your story matters. And you’re allowed to take care of yourself however you need.

#ItsOkayToFeelThisWay #UnpatrioticOnPurpose #TraumaInformedHealing #MillennialTherapist #GenerationalHealing #NotYourTraditionalHoliday #ComplexFeelingsWelcome #RestIsResistance #MentalHealthMatters #CommunityCare #PatriotismIsComplicated #CopingOnHolidays #FourthOfJulyTruths #AttachmentHealing #NervousSystemSupport #BoundariesMatter

Not everyone feels patriotic today — and that’s okay.

For many, today brings grief, anger, or deep disconnection. If the red, white, and blue doesn’t feel like it represents you, you’re not wrong. You’re not “too sensitive” or “ungrateful.” You’re living with awareness.

You can love your people and community, and still be heartbroken or angry at the systems that have caused harm.

So whether you’re resting, grieving, reflecting, or just trying to get through the day — know this:
Your feelings are valid. Your story matters. And you’re allowed to take care of yourself however you need.

#ItsOkayToFeelThisWay #UnpatrioticOnPurpose #TraumaInformedHealing #MillennialTherapist #GenerationalHealing #NotYourTraditionalHoliday #ComplexFeelingsWelcome #RestIsResistance #MentalHealthMatters #CommunityCare #PatriotismIsComplicated #CopingOnHolidays #FourthOfJulyTruths #AttachmentHealing #NervousSystemSupport #BoundariesMatter

If your brain’s been doing backflips since Sunday night, this one’s for you.

You’re allowed to move slow.
You’re allowed to need breaks.
You’re allowed to not have it all figured out by 6:30 PM on a Tuesday.

This week, practice talking to yourself like someone you actually love.
Not someone you’re constantly trying to fix.
You’re not behind—you’re just a human with a nervous system.

🫶🏾 Drink some water.
🫶🏾 Unclench your jaw.
🫶🏾 Be nice to yourself.
🫶🏾 You deserve it.
#MentalHealthSupport #AnxiousMind #TuesdayFeels #SelfCompassion #TherapistOnInstagram #HealingJourney #AnxietySupport #YoureDoingGreat #SelfTalkMatters #KindnessToSelf #MindBodyHealing #ItsOkayToRest #ProgressNotPerfection #PermissionToPause

If your brain’s been doing backflips since Sunday night, this one’s for you.

You’re allowed to move slow.
You’re allowed to need breaks.
You’re allowed to not have it all figured out by 6:30 PM on a Tuesday.

This week, practice talking to yourself like someone you actually love.
Not someone you’re constantly trying to fix.
You’re not behind—you’re just a human with a nervous system.

🫶🏾 Drink some water.
🫶🏾 Unclench your jaw.
🫶🏾 Be nice to yourself.
🫶🏾 You deserve it.
#MentalHealthSupport #AnxiousMind #TuesdayFeels #SelfCompassion #TherapistOnInstagram #HealingJourney #AnxietySupport #YoureDoingGreat #SelfTalkMatters #KindnessToSelf #MindBodyHealing #ItsOkayToRest #ProgressNotPerfection #PermissionToPause

Feeling overwhelmed by the state of the world is human. There’s nothing wrong with you for needing a break. Our bodies and brains were never meant to take in so much at once.

Whether you’re scared, angry, hopeless, or all of the above—you’re allowed to step away. You’re allowed to say “not right now.”

Your nervous system deserves care.
Your heart deserves gentleness.
And you deserve a soft place to land.

Tag someone who needs this reminder. 🤍
#YouStillMatter #MentalHealthSupport #SafeSpaces #TakeABreak #RestIsResistance #EmotionalCare #YouAreNotAlone

Feeling overwhelmed by the state of the world is human. There’s nothing wrong with you for needing a break. Our bodies and brains were never meant to take in so much at once.

Whether you’re scared, angry, hopeless, or all of the above—you’re allowed to step away. You’re allowed to say “not right now.”

Your nervous system deserves care.
Your heart deserves gentleness.
And you deserve a soft place to land.

Tag someone who needs this reminder. 🤍
#YouStillMatter #MentalHealthSupport #SafeSpaces #TakeABreak #RestIsResistance #EmotionalCare #YouAreNotAlone

No one makes it through life without free-falling now and then.
Coregulation is what helps us land softer—together.
Whether it’s a toddler tantrum or a partner’s panic spiral… calm is contagious.

#Coregulation #RelationalHealing #TraumaInformedRelationships #NervousSystemSupport #AttachmentHealing #SomaticTherapy #EmotionalSafety #MillennialTherapist

No one makes it through life without free-falling now and then.
Coregulation is what helps us land softer—together.
Whether it’s a toddler tantrum or a partner’s panic spiral… calm is contagious.

#Coregulation #RelationalHealing #TraumaInformedRelationships #NervousSystemSupport #AttachmentHealing #SomaticTherapy #EmotionalSafety #MillennialTherapist

Happy Father’s Day 💙
To the dads.
To the uncles, grandfathers, coaches, mentors, bonus dads, big brothers—
To every man who showed up with love, protection, and presence.

We see you. We thank you.

And while we celebrate you today, we’re also holding space for your heart.

Men deserve safe spaces to feel.
To break cycles.
To rest.
To cry.
To heal.

Your mental health matters—today and every day.
You’re not just strong. You’re human. And that’s enough. 💙

#FathersDay #FathersDay2025 #MensMentalHealth #BlackMenHeal #FatherFigures #ThankYouDad #TherapyIsForEveryone #YouAreNotAlone

Happy Father’s Day 💙
To the dads.
To the uncles, grandfathers, coaches, mentors, bonus dads, big brothers—
To every man who showed up with love, protection, and presence.

We see you. We thank you.

And while we celebrate you today, we’re also holding space for your heart.

Men deserve safe spaces to feel.
To break cycles.
To rest.
To cry.
To heal.

Your mental health matters—today and every day.
You’re not just strong. You’re human. And that’s enough. 💙

#FathersDay #FathersDay2025 #MensMentalHealth #BlackMenHeal #FatherFigures #ThankYouDad #TherapyIsForEveryone #YouAreNotAlone

The week is ending. You are allowed to be done.
Let the laundry sit. Let the texts wait. Let the pressure drop.

What’s one thing you’re not doing this weekend so you can rest instead?

#WeekendReset #YouDeserveRest #MentalHealthMatters #PeoplePleaserRecovery #BurnoutSupport #EmotionalExhaustion #RestWithoutGuilt #TherapistThoughts #EndOfWeekFeels #HealingOutLoud

The week is ending. You are allowed to be done.
Let the laundry sit. Let the texts wait. Let the pressure drop.

What’s one thing you’re not doing this weekend so you can rest instead?

#WeekendReset #YouDeserveRest #MentalHealthMatters #PeoplePleaserRecovery #BurnoutSupport #EmotionalExhaustion #RestWithoutGuilt #TherapistThoughts #EndOfWeekFeels #HealingOutLoud

You’re not “crazy” or “too much” for feeling insecure.
But if every time your partner talks to someone attractive, your stomach drops and your brain starts running wild… that’s not about them. That’s old wounds showing up in new ways.

They’ve chosen you. They keep choosing you.
But if you’re stuck in fear, you might miss it.

Let’s talk about what’s actually going on when jealousy shows up—and how to start healing the part of you that thinks you’re not enough.

Save this for when your nervous system tries to start a fight 💥👀
And if this hits home… you’re not alone.

#jealousythoughts #attachmentstyles #relationshipanxiety #anxiousattachment #insecureattachment #healingjourney #selfworthwork #youareenough #relationshipadvice #therapythoughts #mentalhealthawareness #jealousyisaliar #mindfulrelationships #emotionalhealing #selfcompassion #innerchildhealing

You’re not “crazy” or “too much” for feeling insecure.
But if every time your partner talks to someone attractive, your stomach drops and your brain starts running wild… that’s not about them. That’s old wounds showing up in new ways.

They’ve chosen you. They keep choosing you.
But if you’re stuck in fear, you might miss it.

Let’s talk about what’s actually going on when jealousy shows up—and how to start healing the part of you that thinks you’re not enough.

Save this for when your nervous system tries to start a fight 💥👀
And if this hits home… you’re not alone.

#jealousythoughts #attachmentstyles #relationshipanxiety #anxiousattachment #insecureattachment #healingjourney #selfworthwork #youareenough #relationshipadvice #therapythoughts #mentalhealthawareness #jealousyisaliar #mindfulrelationships #emotionalhealing #selfcompassion #innerchildhealing

If you have to perform to feel loved… that’s not love. That’s survival mode.

Healthy relationships don’t require you to audition.
They don’t ask you to dim your light just to make someone else more comfortable.

You deserve the kind of love that says:
❤️“I see all of you — and I still choose you.”
❤️“You don’t have to tone it down to keep me.”

If your relationship only feels safe when you’re less of yourself…
That’s not your forever space. That’s a red flag wearing grey sweatpants or a summer dress.

All of you is worthy. Every single part.

#HealthyRelationships #YouDeserveMore #LoveShouldFeelSafe #AllOfYouIsWelcome #StopShrinking #AuthenticLove #NoMorePerforming #MentalHealthMatters #RelationshipRedFlags #SafeLoveOnly #TherapyTalk #BoundariesAreSexy

If you have to perform to feel loved… that’s not love. That’s survival mode.

Healthy relationships don’t require you to audition.
They don’t ask you to dim your light just to make someone else more comfortable.

You deserve the kind of love that says:
❤️“I see all of you — and I still choose you.”
❤️“You don’t have to tone it down to keep me.”

If your relationship only feels safe when you’re less of yourself…
That’s not your forever space. That’s a red flag wearing grey sweatpants or a summer dress.

All of you is worthy. Every single part.

#HealthyRelationships #YouDeserveMore #LoveShouldFeelSafe #AllOfYouIsWelcome #StopShrinking #AuthenticLove #NoMorePerforming #MentalHealthMatters #RelationshipRedFlags #SafeLoveOnly #TherapyTalk #BoundariesAreSexy

Whether you’re out and proud, quietly celebrating in your heart, or still figuring things out—you are welcome here.

This is a space that celebrates you—the full, complicated, still-unfolding, beautifully unique version of you.

To those who can’t celebrate loudly right now—we see you. Whether it’s because of family, safety, community, work, or just not being ready yet… your identity is still valid. Your queerness is still beautiful. Your existence still matters.

To those who feel like they don’t “fit” the mold, who question if they’re “queer enough” or still exploring who they are—you belong. You are loved. There’s no one right way to be you.

We’re here. We’re with you. Always.

🏳️‍🌈💗🖤🤍💛💚💙

#HappyPride #PrideMonth #YouBelongHere #SafeSpace #LGBTQIA #MentalHealthMatters #AllAreWelcome #YouAreLoved #TherapyIsForEveryone #QueerAndValid #NoWrongWayToBeYou #ProudEveryday

Whether you’re out and proud, quietly celebrating in your heart, or still figuring things out—you are welcome here.

This is a space that celebrates you—the full, complicated, still-unfolding, beautifully unique version of you.

To those who can’t celebrate loudly right now—we see you. Whether it’s because of family, safety, community, work, or just not being ready yet… your identity is still valid. Your queerness is still beautiful. Your existence still matters.

To those who feel like they don’t “fit” the mold, who question if they’re “queer enough” or still exploring who they are—you belong. You are loved. There’s no one right way to be you.

We’re here. We’re with you. Always.

🏳️‍🌈💗🖤🤍💛💚💙

#HappyPride #PrideMonth #YouBelongHere #SafeSpace #LGBTQIA #MentalHealthMatters #AllAreWelcome #YouAreLoved #TherapyIsForEveryone #QueerAndValid #NoWrongWayToBeYou #ProudEveryday

Not everyone looks forward to Mother’s Day—and that’s not a flaw, that’s a story.

Whether you’re estranged, grieving, or navigating a complicated relationship with your mom, you’re not alone. You don’t have to perform love or gratitude just because society says so.

It’s okay to feel angry. It’s okay to feel nothing. It’s okay to want a different kind of mother. It’s okay to opt out entirely.

You’re not heartless. You’re honoring your truth.
This is your permission slip to protect your peace.

#MothersDayGrief #EstrangedMothers #EmotionalNeglect #GenerationalHealing #YouAreNotAlone #MotherWound #ComplexFamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapyTalk #BoundariesAreLove #Unmothered #HealingInProgress #MotherlessDaughters #ProtectYourPeace #It’sComplicated

Not everyone looks forward to Mother’s Day—and that’s not a flaw, that’s a story.

Whether you’re estranged, grieving, or navigating a complicated relationship with your mom, you’re not alone. You don’t have to perform love or gratitude just because society says so.

It’s okay to feel angry. It’s okay to feel nothing. It’s okay to want a different kind of mother. It’s okay to opt out entirely.

You’re not heartless. You’re honoring your truth.
This is your permission slip to protect your peace.

#MothersDayGrief #EstrangedMothers #EmotionalNeglect #GenerationalHealing #YouAreNotAlone #MotherWound #ComplexFamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapyTalk #BoundariesAreLove #Unmothered #HealingInProgress #MotherlessDaughters #ProtectYourPeace #It’sComplicated

PSA: Boundaries are not weapons. You can love people and have limits — but that doesn’t mean you get to control them. 💁🏽‍♀️ Let’s talk about the difference.”
#Boundaries #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapistOnInstagram #PeoplePleasingRecovery #Gaslighting101

PSA: Boundaries are not weapons. You can love people and have limits — but that doesn’t mean you get to control them. 💁🏽‍♀️ Let’s talk about the difference.”
#Boundaries #MentalHealthAwareness #TherapistOnInstagram #PeoplePleasingRecovery #Gaslighting101

Let’s be real—it's 2025. Life gave us beautiful people at the Met Gala and plenty of doom scrolling material. It can be gritty. Unfair. Straight-up *rude* sometimes. But we keep showing up, not because it’s easy, but because we’re building something that lasts. 🧱

The truth? Legacy isn’t always made in the spotlight—it’s made in the quiet, thankless, sometimes soul-sucking moments when no one’s clapping. That hard conversation. That boundary you set. That time you chose healing over people-pleasing. That’s the work. That’s the legacy.

Keep going. The story you’re writing matters. 💥

#LegacyBuilding #DoTheWork #HealingIsLegacy #GenerationalHealing #TherapistThoughts #MentalHealthMatters #BreakTheCycle #LifeIsHardButSoAreYou #LeaveYourMark #EmotionalLabor #CycleBreaker #TraumaInformedHealing #MillennialTherapist #ThisIsTheWork

Let’s be real—it's 2025. Life gave us beautiful people at the Met Gala and plenty of doom scrolling material. It can be gritty. Unfair. Straight-up *rude* sometimes. But we keep showing up, not because it’s easy, but because we’re building something that lasts. 🧱

The truth? Legacy isn’t always made in the spotlight—it’s made in the quiet, thankless, sometimes soul-sucking moments when no one’s clapping. That hard conversation. That boundary you set. That time you chose healing over people-pleasing. That’s the work. That’s the legacy.

Keep going. The story you’re writing matters. 💥

#LegacyBuilding #DoTheWork #HealingIsLegacy #GenerationalHealing #TherapistThoughts #MentalHealthMatters #BreakTheCycle #LifeIsHardButSoAreYou #LeaveYourMark #EmotionalLabor #CycleBreaker #TraumaInformedHealing #MillennialTherapist #ThisIsTheWork

Being the one in the family who’s doing the work is no small thing.
It’s lonely. It’s heavy.
And it’s valid to feel angry, tired, and numb some days.

But the work you’re doing?
It’s powerful. It’s legacy-shifting.
It’s proof that you deserve a life that feels safe and whole—even if they don’t get it.

Keep going. Not for them, but for you.

You’re not alone.

#ReelTalk #MentalHealthMatters #GenerationalHealing #TherapyIsWork #CycleBreaker #BoundariesAreLove #HealingJourney #EmotionalExhaustion #FamilyDynamics #TraumaRecovery #YouDeservePeace #NotTheBlackSheepTheBlueprint

Being the one in the family who’s doing the work is no small thing.
It’s lonely. It’s heavy.
And it’s valid to feel angry, tired, and numb some days.

But the work you’re doing?
It’s powerful. It’s legacy-shifting.
It’s proof that you deserve a life that feels safe and whole—even if they don’t get it.

Keep going. Not for them, but for you.

You’re not alone.

#ReelTalk #MentalHealthMatters #GenerationalHealing #TherapyIsWork #CycleBreaker #BoundariesAreLove #HealingJourney #EmotionalExhaustion #FamilyDynamics #TraumaRecovery #YouDeservePeace #NotTheBlackSheepTheBlueprint

You ever make real progress and suddenly your brain’s like,
“Okay but what if we… just went back to chaos real quick?”

Yeah. That’s fear talking.
It shows up right when you’re growing—because comfort feels safe, even when it wasn’t good for you.

You’re not backsliding.
You’re just uncomfortable in a new chapter.

Let it be weird. Let it feel scary. And keep going anyway.

Growth isn’t a straight line, but you’re still moving. 💪✨
⸻

#MentalHealthMatters #NormalizeHealing #InnerWork #ProgressNotPerfection #GrowthIsMessy #EmotionalWellness #FearIsALiar #TraumaInformedHealing #HealingIsntLinear #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapistThoughts #ReelTalk #PeoplePleaserRecovery #AnxietyHealing #YoureDoingGreat

You ever make real progress and suddenly your brain’s like,
“Okay but what if we… just went back to chaos real quick?”

Yeah. That’s fear talking.
It shows up right when you’re growing—because comfort feels safe, even when it wasn’t good for you.

You’re not backsliding.
You’re just uncomfortable in a new chapter.

Let it be weird. Let it feel scary. And keep going anyway.

Growth isn’t a straight line, but you’re still moving. 💪✨
⸻

#MentalHealthMatters #NormalizeHealing #InnerWork #ProgressNotPerfection #GrowthIsMessy #EmotionalWellness #FearIsALiar #TraumaInformedHealing #HealingIsntLinear #SelfAwarenessJourney #TherapistThoughts #ReelTalk #PeoplePleaserRecovery #AnxietyHealing #YoureDoingGreat

Proof that you don’t have to look like a ‘typical runner’ to run your race.
Short legs? Floppy ears? Wiggly booty? WHO CARES.
You were built for your journey, not theirs.
Stay in your lane. Wag your tail. Keep going.

#RunYourRace #StayInYourLane #CorgiEnergy #BuiltDifferent #KeepGoing #SelfLove #Motivation #CorgiRace

Proof that you don’t have to look like a ‘typical runner’ to run your race.
Short legs? Floppy ears? Wiggly booty? WHO CARES.
You were built for your journey, not theirs.
Stay in your lane. Wag your tail. Keep going.

#RunYourRace #StayInYourLane #CorgiEnergy #BuiltDifferent #KeepGoing #SelfLove #Motivation #CorgiRace

Some of my cucumber plants have already sprouted…
Meanwhile, the zucchini? Still out here taking their sweet time.

Both will eventually grow into delicious veggies—but their timing, pace, and process are totally different.

Just like us.
Just because someone else is growing faster doesn’t mean you’re falling behind.

So if you’re still in your “just dirt and waiting” era, that’s okay. Your time is coming.
You don’t need to bloom at the same speed to still be amazing produce.

You’re doing great. Keep watering. Keep trusting. Growth is happening—even when you can’t see it yet.

#growthmindset #patience #selfgrowth #mentalhealthmatters #dontcompare #youredoinggreat

Some of my cucumber plants have already sprouted…
Meanwhile, the zucchini? Still out here taking their sweet time.

Both will eventually grow into delicious veggies—but their timing, pace, and process are totally different.

Just like us.
Just because someone else is growing faster doesn’t mean you’re falling behind.

So if you’re still in your “just dirt and waiting” era, that’s okay. Your time is coming.
You don’t need to bloom at the same speed to still be amazing produce.

You’re doing great. Keep watering. Keep trusting. Growth is happening—even when you can’t see it yet.

#growthmindset #patience #selfgrowth #mentalhealthmatters #dontcompare #youredoinggreat

How well did you take care of yourself this week?

How well did you take care of yourself this week?

Okay… deep breaths because I’m excited AND nervous to be going LIVE with the amazing @therestdoctor this week! 😅🎉

We’re diving into a topic that’s close to both of our hearts (and let’s be real, super relevant for all of us trying to build something meaningful):

✨ “Using Your Affinity Groups to Grow Your Small Business” ✨

If you’ve ever wondered:
👉 What even are affinity groups?
👉 How do I connect with people who “get it”?
👉 And how can those connections actually grow my biz?

…then this convo is for YOU.

🗓️ When: 4/3 @ 9-10pm EST
📍 Where: Right here on IG Live
💬 Come hang out, bring your questions, and maybe a snack (we’re cool with that).

Let’s talk community, identity, and how to grow without burning yourself to the ground 🙌

#IGLive #SmallBizTalk #MentalHealthMeetsMarketing #AffinityGroupPower #CommunityIsCurrency

Okay… deep breaths because I’m excited AND nervous to be going LIVE with the amazing @therestdoctor this week! 😅🎉

We’re diving into a topic that’s close to both of our hearts (and let’s be real, super relevant for all of us trying to build something meaningful):

✨ “Using Your Affinity Groups to Grow Your Small Business” ✨

If you’ve ever wondered:
👉 What even are affinity groups?
👉 How do I connect with people who “get it”?
👉 And how can those connections actually grow my biz?

…then this convo is for YOU.

🗓️ When: 4/3 @ 9-10pm EST
📍 Where: Right here on IG Live
💬 Come hang out, bring your questions, and maybe a snack (we’re cool with that).

Let’s talk community, identity, and how to grow without burning yourself to the ground 🙌

#IGLive #SmallBizTalk #MentalHealthMeetsMarketing #AffinityGroupPower #CommunityIsCurrency

Anxiety showed up uninvited, so I brought a cute shirt and kept going anyway. 😤✌️

Because healing isn’t about not feeling anxious — it’s about not letting it drive the damn car.
You can be nervous and brave. Tired and still trying. Anxious and still out here doing the thing. 💪💖

Tag a friend who needs this reminder today. Or just wear the shirt, vibe checked. And if you can dance go ahead and dance. As for me, I’ll do my 2 step right after I post this, lol. 😌🫶
#AnxiousAndDoingItAnyways #MentalHealthMatters #TraumaInformedHealing #YouGotThis #NormalizeAnxiety #FeelTheFeels

Anxiety showed up uninvited, so I brought a cute shirt and kept going anyway. 😤✌️

Because healing isn’t about not feeling anxious — it’s about not letting it drive the damn car.
You can be nervous and brave. Tired and still trying. Anxious and still out here doing the thing. 💪💖

Tag a friend who needs this reminder today. Or just wear the shirt, vibe checked. And if you can dance go ahead and dance. As for me, I’ll do my 2 step right after I post this, lol. 😌🫶
#AnxiousAndDoingItAnyways #MentalHealthMatters #TraumaInformedHealing #YouGotThis #NormalizeAnxiety #FeelTheFeels

Me: cries during the Puppy Bowl and the Kitty Halftime show, apologizes to the couch, the dogs, and a plant I haven’t watered in 3 weeks (I’m trying to remember, I promise lol).

Also me (now):
“Actually, my sensitivity is a feature, not a bug.”

If you’ve ever said “sorry” for crying, feeling too much, or needing a moment—this one’s for you.

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re just emotionally fluent.

Fluent in tears, intuition, and accidentally absorbing everyone’s mood at Target.

Let’s retire the over-apologizing and start embracing the magic that comes with feeling deeply.

#SensitiveNotSorry #FeelYourFeels #EmotionalFluency #TherapistHumor #MentalHealthWithAFunnyBone #StopSayingSorry

Me: cries during the Puppy Bowl and the Kitty Halftime show, apologizes to the couch, the dogs, and a plant I haven’t watered in 3 weeks (I’m trying to remember, I promise lol).

Also me (now):
“Actually, my sensitivity is a feature, not a bug.”

If you’ve ever said “sorry” for crying, feeling too much, or needing a moment—this one’s for you.

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re just emotionally fluent.

Fluent in tears, intuition, and accidentally absorbing everyone’s mood at Target.

Let’s retire the over-apologizing and start embracing the magic that comes with feeling deeply.

#SensitiveNotSorry #FeelYourFeels #EmotionalFluency #TherapistHumor #MentalHealthWithAFunnyBone #StopSayingSorry

I had big Sunday plans:
— Clean the house
— Meal prep
— Get it together

But then came a little voice:
“Will you play with me?”

My brain said: “There’s too much to do.”
My heart said: “This matters more.”

So I made a new rule:
One chore. One round of play.
One task. One memory.

The house isn’t perfect.
But we laughed.
We connected.
We played.

And that? That feels like a win.

Your reminder: You’re allowed to show up for your home and your heart.
#SundayReset #PresentParenting #CandyLandMoments #BalanceNotBurnout #ParentLifeRealLife

I had big Sunday plans:
— Clean the house
— Meal prep
— Get it together

But then came a little voice:
“Will you play with me?”

My brain said: “There’s too much to do.”
My heart said: “This matters more.”

So I made a new rule:
One chore. One round of play.
One task. One memory.

The house isn’t perfect.
But we laughed.
We connected.
We played.

And that? That feels like a win.

Your reminder: You’re allowed to show up for your home and your heart.
#SundayReset #PresentParenting #CandyLandMoments #BalanceNotBurnout #ParentLifeRealLife

Hot take: being yourself is your superpower.
No auditions. No filters. Just you — messy, magic, and totally enough.

If they don’t vibe with that? Bless and block.
#BeYourself #UnfilteredVibes #NoMoreShrinkin #MainCharacterEnergy

Hot take: being yourself is your superpower.
No auditions. No filters. Just you — messy, magic, and totally enough.

If they don’t vibe with that? Bless and block.
#BeYourself #UnfilteredVibes #NoMoreShrinkin #MainCharacterEnergy

Just a reminder…
You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to breathe.
Everything doesn’t need to be fixed right now.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is stop… and take one intentional breath.

✨ You are human. You are enough. You are here. ✨

#MentalHealthMatters #DeepBreath #PauseAndReflect #MindfulMoments #TherapistThoughts #HealingInProgress

Just a reminder…
You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to breathe.
Everything doesn’t need to be fixed right now.
Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is stop… and take one intentional breath.

✨ You are human. You are enough. You are here. ✨

#MentalHealthMatters #DeepBreath #PauseAndReflect #MindfulMoments #TherapistThoughts #HealingInProgress

Ever felt exhausted after a loud event, irritated by certain fabrics, or overwhelmed in bright spaces? That’s sensory sensitivity at work! When your brain processes input too well, everyday sensations can feel like a LOT.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not imagining things—your nervous system might just need some extra support.

💡 Save this post for later & share with someone who might relate!

#SensoryOverload #HighlySensitivePerson #SensorySensitivity #NeurodivergentLife #MentalHealthMatters #SelfRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #NervousSystemSupport

Ever felt exhausted after a loud event, irritated by certain fabrics, or overwhelmed in bright spaces? That’s sensory sensitivity at work! When your brain processes input too well, everyday sensations can feel like a LOT.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not imagining things—your nervous system might just need some extra support.

💡 Save this post for later & share with someone who might relate!

#SensoryOverload #HighlySensitivePerson #SensorySensitivity #NeurodivergentLife #MentalHealthMatters #SelfRegulation #BurnoutRecovery #NervousSystemSupport

Too often, we wait for the "perfect" moment—when we feel ready, when the timing is just right, when everything aligns. But what if we stopped waiting and just started?

✨ Setting boundaries
✨ Prioritizing yourself
✨ Healing
✨ Making a change

You don’t need permission. You don’t need the perfect conditions. You just need you—right now. 💛

#EmpoweredGrowth #StartNow #BoundariesMatter #MentalWellness #HealingJourney

Too often, we wait for the "perfect" moment—when we feel ready, when the timing is just right, when everything aligns. But what if we stopped waiting and just started?

✨ Setting boundaries
✨ Prioritizing yourself
✨ Healing
✨ Making a change

You don’t need permission. You don’t need the perfect conditions. You just need you—right now. 💛

#EmpoweredGrowth #StartNow #BoundariesMatter #MentalWellness #HealingJourney

You don’t have to earn your worth—it’s already within you. 💛 In a world that thrives on connection, you belong just as you are. Let this be your reminder today: You are enough, you are valued, and you are never alone. ✨ Tag someone who needs this reminder! #YouBelong #SelfWorth #CommunityMatters

You don’t have to earn your worth—it’s already within you. 💛 In a world that thrives on connection, you belong just as you are. Let this be your reminder today: You are enough, you are valued, and you are never alone. ✨ Tag someone who needs this reminder! #YouBelong #SelfWorth #CommunityMatters

Reflection Sunday: What did you learn about yourself this week? Whether it’s a small win or a lesson learned, share your insight below and let’s grow together. I’ll share mine in the comments. #ReflectionSunday #SelfCareJourney

Reflection Sunday: What did you learn about yourself this week? Whether it’s a small win or a lesson learned, share your insight below and let’s grow together. I’ll share mine in the comments. #ReflectionSunday #SelfCareJourney

Happy Self-Care Saturday, everyone! Today’s all about checking in with what you need to feel balanced and recharged. I’m taking a little time for myself—maybe a quiet moment, a cozy game, or just some deep breaths. What’s one thing you need today to bring more calm into your life? Share below and let’s inspire each other! #SelfCareSaturday #TakeTimeForYou

Happy Self-Care Saturday, everyone! Today’s all about checking in with what you need to feel balanced and recharged. I’m taking a little time for myself—maybe a quiet moment, a cozy game, or just some deep breaths. What’s one thing you need today to bring more calm into your life? Share below and let’s inspire each other! #SelfCareSaturday #TakeTimeForYou

March is right around the corner, and we’re setting the tone NOW. 🚪✨ This next month is all about BOUNDARIES—protecting our energy, saying no without guilt, and prioritizing ourselves.

Starting March 1st, I’ll be sharing tips and conversations about boundary-setting, burnout recovery, and healthier ways to take care of YOU. Let’s walk into this new month feeling empowered and supported.

Drop a 💛 in the comments if you’re ready to set boundaries that actually serve you! ⬇️ #MarchBoundaries #SelfCareNotSelfish #BurnoutRecovery

March is right around the corner, and we’re setting the tone NOW. 🚪✨ This next month is all about BOUNDARIES—protecting our energy, saying no without guilt, and prioritizing ourselves.

Starting March 1st, I’ll be sharing tips and conversations about boundary-setting, burnout recovery, and healthier ways to take care of YOU. Let’s walk into this new month feeling empowered and supported.

Drop a 💛 in the comments if you’re ready to set boundaries that actually serve you! ⬇️ #MarchBoundaries #SelfCareNotSelfish #BurnoutRecovery

I goofed and uploaded my original reel to my personal page. The perfectionist in me wanted to give up on posting for the day and try again next week. My business coach, @therestdoctor reminded me that growth is showing up— messy, imperfect, and all. So, I pushed through and decided to post something else. This post is more of a personal challenge for myself than anything. Gotta practice what I preach, right? #accountability #perfectionismrecovery #growthmindset #progressoverperfection #showupmessy

I goofed and uploaded my original reel to my personal page. The perfectionist in me wanted to give up on posting for the day and try again next week. My business coach, @therestdoctor reminded me that growth is showing up— messy, imperfect, and all. So, I pushed through and decided to post something else. This post is more of a personal challenge for myself than anything. Gotta practice what I preach, right? #accountability #perfectionismrecovery #growthmindset #progressoverperfection #showupmessy

"Healthy boundaries create stronger and healthier relationships—both at work and in your personal life! 💙✨ They help you communicate your needs, protect your energy, and build mutual respect. Setting limits isn’t selfish; it’s essential for well-being. #HealthyBoundaries #SelfCare #MentalWellness #StrongerRelationships"

"Healthy boundaries create stronger and healthier relationships—both at work and in your personal life! 💙✨ They help you communicate your needs, protect your energy, and build mutual respect. Setting limits isn’t selfish; it’s essential for well-being. #HealthyBoundaries #SelfCare #MentalWellness #StrongerRelationships"

”I love when you punch me in the face like this.”* 👀😂

No, I’m not out here throwing hands in session—but I *am* asking the tough questions that make my clients pause, reflect, and dig deep. 💭✨

Therapy isn’t always warm and fuzzy. Sometimes, it’s holding up a mirror, challenging old narratives, and creating space for real growth. And hearing this from a client? A reminder that the hard work is *worth it*. 💪❤️

Tag a friend who loves (or *needs*) a good metaphorical therapy punch! 🥊 #TherapistLife #GrowthMindset #Accountability #TherapyWins

”I love when you punch me in the face like this.”* 👀😂

No, I’m not out here throwing hands in session—but I *am* asking the tough questions that make my clients pause, reflect, and dig deep. 💭✨

Therapy isn’t always warm and fuzzy. Sometimes, it’s holding up a mirror, challenging old narratives, and creating space for real growth. And hearing this from a client? A reminder that the hard work is *worth it*. 💪❤️

Tag a friend who loves (or *needs*) a good metaphorical therapy punch! 🥊 #TherapistLife #GrowthMindset #Accountability #TherapyWins

Supporting therapists, empowering growth. 💙

Whether you're an LCSWA looking for clinical supervision or a fully licensed clinician needing consultation, I’m here to help. I specialize in trauma, anxiety, and DBT, offering virtual and in-person options to fit your needs. Let’s work together to strengthen your skills, navigate tough cases, and prioritize YOUR well-being, too.

📩 DM me to learn more!

#ClinicalSupervision #TherapistSupport #LCSWA #TherapistGrowth #DBT #TraumaTherapy #AnxietySupport #SupervisionMatters

Supporting therapists, empowering growth. 💙

Whether you're an LCSWA looking for clinical supervision or a fully licensed clinician needing consultation, I’m here to help. I specialize in trauma, anxiety, and DBT, offering virtual and in-person options to fit your needs. Let’s work together to strengthen your skills, navigate tough cases, and prioritize YOUR well-being, too.

📩 DM me to learn more!

#ClinicalSupervision #TherapistSupport #LCSWA #TherapistGrowth #DBT #TraumaTherapy #AnxietySupport #SupervisionMatters

Black history is rich with resilience, strength, and healing. As we honor the past, we also honor our own growth. Take up space. Prioritize your well-being. Your mental health matters—always. ✨💛

#BlackHistoryMonth #MentalHealthMatters #BlackTherapists #HealingIsPower #EmpoweredMindset

Black history is rich with resilience, strength, and healing. As we honor the past, we also honor our own growth. Take up space. Prioritize your well-being. Your mental health matters—always. ✨💛

#BlackHistoryMonth #MentalHealthMatters #BlackTherapists #HealingIsPower #EmpoweredMindset

It’s Friday and I’m a bit behind on my notes and over thinking what feels like everything. My body is buzzing. I know what this feeling means for me. So, here’s how I manage my overstimulation:
🎧Noise-canceling headphones – Blocking out distractions helps me focus and feel more grounded.
💃 Movement breaks – A quick two-step or sway at my desk, or a walk around the building, helps reset my nervous system.
🖐 Fidget items – Keeping my hands busy with a stress ball, textured stone, or fidget cube keeps me regulated.

We all deserve to feel comfortable in our space. What helps you when the world feels too loud? 💙

#SelfRegulation #Overstimulation #MindfulWorkday

It’s Friday and I’m a bit behind on my notes and over thinking what feels like everything. My body is buzzing. I know what this feeling means for me. So, here’s how I manage my overstimulation:
🎧Noise-canceling headphones – Blocking out distractions helps me focus and feel more grounded.
💃 Movement breaks – A quick two-step or sway at my desk, or a walk around the building, helps reset my nervous system.
🖐 Fidget items – Keeping my hands busy with a stress ball, textured stone, or fidget cube keeps me regulated.

We all deserve to feel comfortable in our space. What helps you when the world feels too loud? 💙

#SelfRegulation #Overstimulation #MindfulWorkday

As a former first responder, I’ve seen firsthand how stress, trauma, and putting everyone else first can take a toll. Now, I’m here to help YOU prioritize yourself—because your well-being matters just as much as the people you care for. 💙

In this space, we talk about:
✔️ Empowerment & growth
✔️ Boundaries that actually work
✔️ Navigating tough emotions
✔️ Building a life that feels GOOD for YOU

You deserve support, community, and the tools to thrive. Let’s do this together. 🤝💛

Drop a 💛 in the comments if you're ready to start putting yourself first! #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #BoundariesAreHealthy

As a former first responder, I’ve seen firsthand how stress, trauma, and putting everyone else first can take a toll. Now, I’m here to help YOU prioritize yourself—because your well-being matters just as much as the people you care for. 💙

In this space, we talk about:
✔️ Empowerment & growth
✔️ Boundaries that actually work
✔️ Navigating tough emotions
✔️ Building a life that feels GOOD for YOU

You deserve support, community, and the tools to thrive. Let’s do this together. 🤝💛

Drop a 💛 in the comments if you're ready to start putting yourself first! #Empowerment #MentalHealthMatters #BoundariesAreHealthy

January is around the corner. Take this last week to take care of yourself ❤️

January is around the corner. Take this last week to take care of yourself ❤️

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